Updated: May 24
12 Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly beloved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience. 13 Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. 14 And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
The best tool in your belt id a good pair of friends. Your support system, your wake up call, your confidant, your soul sister. Having someone to talk to that will listen with a kind heart and without judgement is important for your mental and spiritual health.
Recently, I started speaking on the phone every morning to my best friend since elementary school. We had been a bit disconnected for a while so when we began calling each other in the morning and filling each other in on our lives it was really refreshing. I realized there was so much I didn't know about my friend about my friend. Past traumas, current life affairs, lot of things we currently had in common in our lives. How could I not know all of this? Well, I had been so wrapped up in my own life that I didn't realize how much I had missed.
Do you know the feeling of not being there for your friend?Well, I felt years of it come crashing in me in such a short period of time when we started talking. I've always been the kind of flaky friend everyone complains about, it's really just in my nature. I have a tendency to push everyone away when I'm feeling overwhelmed in life and with 3 kids and a new marriage, I had a lot on my plate and I felt like I didn't have any energy to put into my friendships. I was a bad friend. But Ii was also really busy. As the weeks went on and we continued to talk, I felt myself more energized and content with my life and how I was doing as a mother. And I finally wasn't alone in it all, I had someone to lean on when it got tough, to remind me how kick ass I'm doing and best of all to share a bible verse with me to keep me strong.
I was able to be more mindful in situations where I could offer my help and support to my friend. I'm still trying to keep my word and make sure I attend parties and gatherings she invites me to. I'm trying to be better at birthday and Christmas gifts. But I'm a work in progress and that's ok. I know life gets away from me sometimes but for the most part I'm trying to be more committed in my friendships.